Making a Happy Life with a Russian Girl

Some pointers…

Stop obsessing about Feminists and Feminazi’s. Thoughts are powerful things. What you think about lands in your life. It is not impossible to find a Russian feminist.

Stop Relationship Surfing on the Net. It’s filled with the bottomfeeders that no sane Russian man wanted.  If you’re lonely or really serious about real, reciprocal love; then, smile at a Western woman, even if it’s just some superficial flirting until you can make the trip to Russia.

Nothing, no books, no blogs, no know-it-all Westerners no matter their intention, can ever prepare you for what you will see when you arrive. It can be stonecold bleak emotionally. Or it can make your heart explode with joy. It’s not just another country. It’s another planet. Stop guessing. Plan your trip.

Make a really good connection with a translator. If you do what I suggest and stay for a longer period of time, you’ll need her/his help to get a reasonably priced  apartment.

Better still, begin to learn the Russian language. Just imagine walking around with duct tape on your mouth in daily life. If you can’t open your mouth then nothing can happen. Russians don’t know English.

Go to a mid-sized city. Not too large as Moscow or St. Petersburg. And not so small that the pets are counted in the population census. You must have options for dating. But too big a city will make it just as difficult as a tiny village in some ways. Not enough local networks or longtime-based friendship circles.

Second visit or whenever you know Russia well enough; then you can make a treck to the smaller locales. Knowledge of the language will be vital the smaller the village.

Buy some Russian clothes. Or people might think you look silly, no matter what they think back home about your Western threads. Russians take clothing and clean clothing especially much more seriously than most of us. Get Russian GQ’d or the girls you encounter might not take you so seriously as you would want.

Plan to do something in your career there which will bring you into contact with people. Girls are people. Circulate and let it be abundantly clear that you search for a “good” Russian girl and love. If it’s simply a bad Russian girl you’re after then don’t ask. They’ll find you. Good luck if they do.

Don’t be shy about asking for a date if you’re sincere. Remember, there’s nothing more emotionally bleak for a Western man than to be alone in Russia.

Pick a “good” girl or your life will suffer enormously. Good girls are great lovers too. So good girl doesn’t mean goody-two-shoes dispassionate.

Be prepared that the moment Russian girls learn that you’re a Westerner, they’ll assume that you’ve got money. You can’t buy love. But yes, they’ll expect, that you can immediately support a family. If you need to work on your career before you can support your family; then please do it before you go there. They won’t understand “going on a ‘walkabout’ “.

In Russia, there’s survival; and there’s enjoying life. Don’t expect smilely happy faces too much. There’s alot of survival crises.

If you plan a life in the West with a Russian girl; then just be prepared that about 80-85% of Russian girls return to Russia due to cultural shock. Prepare for two sets of return tickets for her. Expect that she’ll need to return to get her perspective back again or she may not return. Don’t take the return due to cultural shock personally. Expect it.

Do not get hitched to a girl whose friends and family are a mess. It’s trouble.

Look for a girl with really excellent, emotionally and lifewise really well-adjusted networks and family. Her friends and family won’t cause such huge problems.

Beware of the Russian prima donna. They only love themselves and will think constantly about how you’re supposed to benefit their lives without input of their own back your way. Emotionally incapable of true, reciprocal love.

Pay attention to her job, what she does and if she likes it. Hopefully she won’t like it very much and will be much more grateful to you then for taking her from it. If she’s a doctor and you bring her to the West; and you’re not, then expect to lose her.

The West will Westernize a Russian girl. Ask yourself if all the trouble to import a foreign Westerner is really worth all the trouble.

Consider the wisdom of living and working in Russia. Possibly it will require lots of planning. But, yes, there really are a bunch of Western expats there. Russia thinks this is so strange, that often a television station will show some details of this strange Western/Russian type of family life in Russia.

Get really well-organized with your possessions and necessary documents. Never lose your Russian immigration papers.

If you can afford to support your girlfriend and you have a reasonably serious relationship; and you have the time in the day to be with her; then contemplate the wisdom of asking her to quit her job if she doesn’t like it. Russia can be a supremely romantic place to spend some time with your Russian girl. The more, the better.

Try to develop a Western investment or commercial interest of some kind which continues to earn while you’re in Russia until you’re financially secure and can choose to work or not work. Life is short. Love is its sweetness.

Russian girls are very, very demanding. They’ll expect much more from you as a man, than the average Western woman. Western women are trained to be self-sufficient. Russian girls are trained, socialized to be man-dependent. She will really, really need you for practical care. Don’t misinterpret this as necessarily golddigger. This is the number one area of misinterpretation between Western men and Russian girls.

Russian girls’ job is to take care of their family with the practical support provided by their men.  The practical expectations… Expect it.

Learn to enjoy travel, doing the tourist thing. These people love to travel. What do you expect for the natives of the world’s largest country?

Russians watch too much television. Try to wean your girl from it. There’s generally something much more interesting to do. Don’t let it rob you and her of real life experiences.

Whenever you hit a rocky part in your relationship then go somewhere quiet and remember your life back home. It’ll make you much more calm and put it all in a more grateful perspective.

In my opinion there’s absolutely no love like a Russian love. Like their friendships, it’s soul deep. Way, way deep.

You will probably never love another the way you will love a Russian girl. Can be it’s some kind of mystical thing.

To be loved and desired by a Russian girl is the rush of a lifetime. Walk calmly, as carefully as possible and pay attention to Russian wisdom. They are generally not idiots about life.